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This post is for both trainers and those looking for a trainer who knows this Red flags avoid. I'm a meditation coach and trainer, so I mostly focus on how to teach meditation, and this is one of my main responsibilities as a coach and trainer. I work on these problems every day as part of my job, so I will share many examples these 11 most common coaching mistakes.
11 common coaching mistakes
1. The coach talks too much
Whether through lectures, sermons or teaching, the coach talks too much when there is more talk than listening to the client and being receptive. Coaches benefit from their clients when they are in a state of receptivity rather than drowning out their wisdom or knowledge. When you are a coach, it is important to be aware of the need to preach and to remember to put the client's needs first.
2. The coach speaks of an authority like a parent
Customers aren't looking for another parent. Instead, a coach is a peer who empowers another peer. You are equal. The client is grown up and able to develop their path with a little encouragement. A coach is there to strengthen the client's inner knowledge so that he can make his own decisions and go his own way.
3. The coach predicts what concerns the future of his customers
This mistake crosses the line of naturally intuitive or clairvoyant and begins to make psychological predictions about a client's life. In an empowered session, the intent is to let the client discover their path, not for you to predict it.
As a customer, when looking for the right coach, make sure that you do not leave your power to a clairvoyant. Trainers are people too. You make mistakes. Just because a coach is very intuitive doesn't make them spiritually or personally advanced.
In a coaching relationship, the client is ultimately responsible for their own life, actions and decisions.
4. The coach tells the client directly what to do
Instead of telling you what to do, a coach will ask insightful questions so you can discover your path and what feels right inside you. A coach can confirm what you want to say, what you want to do, and help you recognize what you are feeling and hearing. However, watch out for coaches who want to bring themselves or their opinions and perspectives into your life. An experienced coach maintains an open space of neutrality and does not attempt to intentionally influence or influence your decisions.
5. The coach perpetuates the ideas of willingness to make sacrifices and separation Sep
Look out for coaches who can help you empathize with the idea of being a victim. These coaches can make you feel like life is happening to you and that you need to part with the people who are attacking you. You can paint a very black and white picture of what is wrong and right and that as a coach you are “the one” who can help you in your need. Her advice can be as straightforward as, "You need to get this person out of your life." Of course, there can be extreme situations like abuse where you would feel compelled to act like this, but your most important life decisions need to be made by yourself and not by another person.
6. The coach cannot work as a coach with the energy of love, unity and compassion
Watch out for coaches who are not working from a place of love, oneness, and compassion. In a strengthening session you will feel that you are lifted into a peaceful space of consciousness. You may feel that the entire session with the coach is being informed from this room. As a result, you will feel a positive energy through the interactions with your coach.
As a coach, tune in to your sessions before your sessions and make sure you come from a higher place within yourself and not from where you go about your day-to-day affairs. Create a space of awareness together with your client. For more information on this approach to teaching, see our How to Teach Meditation article.
7. The coach does not awaken the client's wisdom, but pushes his own agenda forward
This is a warning against preaching, teaching, or telling your client what to do. Instead, create a space where they can come to their own knowledge and perceive their emotions, feelings and their bodies. Coaches help to gain their clients' own wisdom, insight and intuition. They are not pushing a client in the direction they, as a coach, think that person should go.
Customers have their own compass and wisdom. Take the time and patience to develop this space together with your customer. The fantastic thing about it is that you can do this with your client, even online. We have found online coaching to be very effective, especially in times of social distancing. To learn more, read our article "How to Teach Meditation Online".
8. The coach leaves people feeling desperate, desperate and needy
Look out for coaches who leave you hopeless and in need. If you feel exhausted after working with a coach, pay attention to it. There are some coaches out there who leave you feeling desperate that something is wrong with your life and that they are "the ones" who have the power to help you.
A positive coach leaves a feeling of hope, insight, and clarity. Even if the sessions bring out the deeper, darker emotions, you may notice a sense of catharsis, with energy being released. You may feel tired, but not despair and heaviness. You will feel lighter and more confident.
9. The coach creates a feeling of co-dependency with his client
This problem brings together some of the things that we have already talked about. The coach can make the client feel broken and the coach is "the one" who can fix it. The trainer might even say, "I am the one who has the solution and it will take so much time and money to get there." This approach can make you feel that your choices are limited.
A really experienced coach could say, “This is my offer. It's your choice. "It feels like a gift presented with an open palm, not one with a hook attached. When people turn to others for help, they may feel the need asking for answers, maybe even desperate It is important to be aware of the coaches you are putting in a client agreement that may not be in your best interests.
10. The coach does not see the bigger picture with the customer
The coach paints a bleak picture of your life and makes it look like you really need his help. However, an experienced coach recognizes that there is a learning experience even in the most painful of situations. The client may be so focused on this situation that he overlooks the bigger picture and cannot see the resolution of the end of the suffering. A coach will cultivate the client's ability to be in their power even when feeling anxious and stressed. The result is a more hopeful, helpful, redesigned perspective on a situation. The technique used is to ask questions, not by telling or teaching something.
11. The coach uses prescriptive words such as should and not
Some coaches direct their clients' experiences by speaking to them like a parent, "Do this, don't do that". "You should, you shouldn't." This comes from a fear-based awareness rather than an empowered state. A skilled coach uses words that support and encourage the client's innate wisdom. You ask questions like “What do you think is right? What do you think is the next step? What are you feeling? Where do you feel that in your body? ”Again, your language and your questions should lead people to their innate wisdom. It is supposed to free them, not restrict them.
12. Finally, an additional point! The coach is not doing enough personal inner work
There is a common archetype called the wounded healer. The healer's goal is to help others, but not to worry about their own pain and injuries. All the knowledge and wisdom flows in one direction outwards to others. A wounded healer can constantly run from his own true healing by avoiding his own pain while helping others through his own.
The problem is that when the coach is not doing his inner work, he starts projecting his own problems and blockages onto his client. They train from a place of limitation, scarcity and scarcity rather than abundance. This perspective inadvertently fosters a sense of need, victimhood, and co-dependency.
A word to the customer
You should feel lighter, brighter, clearer, empowered, and connected to your mind after a session with a coach. You can see that the coach has this loving, open space ready in which you can follow your own wisdom and choose your path freely. You should feel like you can be yourself without expecting your trainer to please or feel pressured to be anything or anyone. With really supportive coaching, you will feel closer to your true, authentic self.
Summary: The 11 Most Common Coaching Mistakes
- The trainer talks too much.
- The coach speaks of an authority like a parent.
- The coach predicts what concerns the future of his customers.
- The coach tells the client directly what to do.
- The coach perpetuates the ideas of victimhood and separation.
- The coach cannot work with the energy of love, oneness and compassion.
- The coach fails to evoke the client's wisdom.
- The coach leaves people feeling desperate, desperate and needy.
- The coach creates a feeling of co-dependency with his client.
- The coach doesn't see the big picture with the client.
- The coach uses prescriptive words such as should and should not.
- ** The coach does not enough personal inner work.
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