Our happiness and emotional stability depend on our ability to love ourselves. This self-love is called self-respect. Self-esteem has a subtle effect on us, dictates our decisions and shapes our worldview. It lies at the heart of many of our problems in life, but because we may not be fully aware of our implicit self-assessments, we may not realize that the main cause of a problem is how we feel at the deepest level.
Unfortunately, self-esteem is often portrayed as a nebulous, magical trait that some people simply have and others don't, or as a trait that we can improve by losing weight or buying a new wardrobe. But self-esteem is more complicated.
The more interesting and relevant fact is that meditation can help improve self-esteem.
Self-esteem is not the same as self-confidence.
Self-esteem is often associated with self-confidence, but the two concepts are actually very different. Self-esteem is measured by how much we like ourselves and the extent to which we feel worthy to receive all the good that life has to offer. In contrast, trust is our belief in our ability or effectiveness in a particular subject or situation.
A high self-esteem is beneficial when we are consciously and unconsciously sure of who we are. Low self-esteem and fragile high self-esteem, on the other hand, lead to emotional instability and are often associated with mental health problems such as depression, anxiety, or eating disorders. At the very least, fragile, unhealthy self-esteem prevents us from leading the fulfilled, self-realized lives that we should be.
How meditation helps develop healthy self-esteem.
Meditation provides a practical, systematic method for developing healthy self-esteem. In Sahaja meditation, the state of thoughtless awareness can automatically facilitate several important emotional processes that help configure our self-esteem:
- Ego monitoring and regulation
- emotional regulation and emotional maturity
- increased self-confidence
- increased self-confidence
- Self-image improvement
- Mood improvement
- positive inner dialogue: negative self-talk and faulty thought patterns are reduced
- rejuvenated energy, increased motivation
- Integration of conscious (explicit) and unconscious (implicit) self-assessments
By allowing us to discover the Kundalini energy within us, Sahaja meditation ultimately enables us to discover our inner selves. This spiritual energy, which is inherently the power of love and compassion, naturally gives us confidence, love and positive feelings for ourselves and others. These positive feelings form the basis for a healthy self-esteem.
A major benefit of meditation, and Sahaja meditation in particular, is the improved ability to focus on the present rather than thinking about the past or worrying about the future. Thus, the practice of Sahaja meditation automatically reduces the feeling of regret for past negative events, near misses or failures that can lead to unhealthy self-esteem.
Meditation can help us gradually let go of the past, to move beyond a low self-esteem set point that may have been anchored in childhood.
The experience of Sahaja's thoughtless awareness can make it possible to incorporate implicit, intuitively presented self-assessments without judgment into our conscious experience of ourselves (i.e., our explicit self-esteem), ultimately promoting a safe high self-esteem.
How to Use Sahaja Meditation to Improve Self-Esteem
Focus on the heart chakra
Sahaja meditation improves self-esteem by awakening the Kundalini inner energy and nourishing certain energy centers. In particular, the nutrition of the heart energy center (anahata) directly increases self-esteem by strengthening our sense of security about ourselves. And the center of energy in the middle of the forehead (agnya) plays a big role in monitoring and regulating the ego.
Regular practice of spiritual meditation can over time improve character and personality traits and ultimately generate the highest levels of self-esteem. When we can maintain high levels of self-esteem, we develop a deep reservoir of secure self-esteem.
Experiencing divine power increases self-confidence.
Belief in the divine becomes reality through your meditation experience in Sahaja. This gives you tremendous confidence and in yourself. Knowing and understanding your problems is a great asset when you have the confidence that you are on the path to improving and changing your life.
Develop the absolute moral compass
Your Mooladhara chakra can give you an absolute sense of right and wrong. This will help you determine your own worth clearly instead of measuring yourself against worldviews or popular beliefs and opinions. You will begin to exude positivity and confidence with a strong sense of self and artificial standards set by others or the world will no longer matter.