It takes a little longer to get in the mood for a lot of people, and that's fine.
Humans process sensual and sexual experiences through a series of interactions between the so-called "accelerator" and "brakes" of their sexual response system, also known as the dual control model of sexual response. The easiest way to think about it: the accelerator pedal turns us on and the brakes turn us off. If your brakes are dominant you may have difficulty getting on. If your accelerator is dominant, you may find it a lot easier to get there.
"Arousal is about a balance between accelerating and braking," says Tazima Parris, sex coach, amusement mentor and founder of Infinite Relating. How do you balance them Context.
How our individual system works, whether our brakes or the accelerator pedal are more dominant, and how they work together depends not only on the genitals we were born with, but also on who we are as a person: what we like and what we don't like what challenges us, what makes us all tingle, where we are in life. To find out what turns you on, you need to create the best context for you to enjoy, with as few turns in the game as possible.
Here are a few simple but concrete examples of how you can create those contexts for you to get horny when you want to. They come from experts.