Perfectionism, of course, follows from the fear of failure that was addressed yesterday – Day 2.
Many of us were raised to think that we had to be the best in everything we did. No room for slip-ups or mistakes.
The perfectionist assumes that if they don't always do it perfectly, they shouldn't do it at all.
As a result, many obese people feel that if they can't stick to their diets perfectly, they might as well quit.
The first and probably most important thing to keep in mind – everyone has them, i.e. slip-ups. Let's get that out of the way – you are not alone.
We learn from our mistakes and it is in the human condition that we do not always get everything right, whether it is at the beginning, in the middle, or just before the end of a program (weight loss, smoking cessation, etc.).
Dealing with these slip-ups is critical to our long-term success (and happiness).
If Motivated, we get them with new clients from day one, so sign a commitment form and let them know that there will be slips on the trip – you are only human. We'll show them how to think differently about slips, as most clients have tried any number of traditional weight loss programs and failed because they stopped after a slip or series of slips.
If we change our way of thinking about slips or failures, our customers can slip, learn, and move on without missing a step. No guilt from feelings of failure.
If yesterday's post made you feel empowered and you want to take on the challenge of shedding a modest amount of weight first, then check out this podcast – it's an invaluable resource for learning about slips and relapses, however especially how to deal with perfectionism and guilt.
Dealing with Perfectionism – Day 3