Finish Emotional Consuming for Good

End Emotional Eating for Good

Quit emotional eating forever

Every day we experience a spectrum of emotions. Some feel good, others less. Some emotions scare us. It's usually the big ones. These are the ones that shock and unsettle us – intense anger, pain, sadness, or fear. Unfortunately, so many of us have been conditioned to have an unhealthy relationship with the more intense emotions, which is often the main cause of our stress and struggle.

We can also be prone to panic and often overlook other emotions that are beneath our stress or fear. For example, let's say you have an interview ahead of you and you feel tense and worried. If you sit with these emotions for a while and delve a little deeper into fear, you may find that there is excitement and joy there too (in fact, many psychologists say joy is right next to fear). You could be at a crossroads in your life where you really need a change, and it could be.

Conditioning in childhood

Raised by well-meaning but limited adults who refused to experience or show their own uncomfortable emotions, we often learn to avoid expressing or showing feelings or emotions fully or freely. For example, we may have been taught that some emotions are "positive" and others are "negative". As children, we then learn to suppress uncomfortable feelings instead of expressing them. We are told, "Don't cry – here, take this cookie" or "I can't look at you – go to your room". We don't know, but this is often at the heart of our unhealthy relationship with food. And that's not just limited to women. Listen to our podcast on men and emotional eating here.

We literally “plug” the unpleasant emotions or we resist or try to control and suppress them. This way we can even suppress the joyful emotions and this can lead to less energy, depression and anxiety. It is then understandable that we can resort to emotional eating to "numb" our difficult emotions (we also consume alcohol or drugs in the same way) and to calm or comfort ourselves. However, it is never too late to change this trend. In order to quit emotional eating, the answer is to behave in the opposite way to what we often want to do, which is to turn away from these feelings. Instead, we need to learn to hug, accept, and even welcome them (see Rumi's poem below).

Open to all emotions

The more emotions we “let in” and experience – by no longer resisting them – the greater our energy and the better we can move away from food as a source of comfort – we just don't need it that much. By accepting ALL of our emotions and not judging ourselves for having them or calling them “good” or “bad”, we create the energy we need to heal, create, and grow. These five simple steps will help you move from suppressing to accepting emotions and, more importantly, quitting emotional eating:

  1. Be curious: Try to turn into curiosity instead of berating yourself for feeling "negative" emotions. Say to yourself, "It's interesting that I feel this way. I wonder what that tells me." You are not a bad person who experiences jealousy, hatred, or any of the so-called "negative" emotions. It's just how you feel It's okay.
  2. Prioritize sleep: As you go through emotional ups and downs, it is crucial that your body is well rested and working optimally to deal with and process all of these emotions. Turn off the screens an hour before bed, stick to a liquidation routine, and try to go to bed and get up at the same time (more or less) each day to keep up with your circadian rhythm.
  3. Start journal: Get all of those emotions aside and be free of judgment. A good time to do this is while relaxing before bed, as this frees the emotions and helps you sleep more restfully.
  4. Consider meditation or mindfulness: so often we are in our heads and not in our hearts. Having repetitive negative thoughts is a sure sign that we need to ground ourselves into the moment and lower the volume of our thoughts. Read here how meditation can help with weight control:
  5. Use your mood to take action: Instead of thinking or staying in a bad mood, think about what I can do for myself now to help. This is a step where emotions are managed rather than suppressed. This could include taking some self-care steps or deciding to make some changes in your life to improve your mood (such as changing jobs, exercising more regularly, or asking / paying for more help or assistance to make the day easier ). today). Read more about how exercise can improve mood here.

A poem to help

Often recited in mindfulness circles, The Guest House (Rumi) is a reminder not to resist the thoughts and emotions that go through you, but to approach them with courage, warmth and even respect. These seemingly unwanted guests in the guest house of your mind can help clear out anything that is not true or not helpful. But you have to let them in to do their job. And like all guests, they will eventually leave.

The guest house

This human being is a guest house.
A newcomer every morning.

A joy, a depression, a meanness
there is a brief consciousness
As an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a lot of worries
who forcefully sweep your house
empty of its furniture
Treat every guest honestly anyway.
Maybe he'll clear you out
for a new joy.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice
Meet her laughing at the door and invite her over.

Be grateful for everyone who comes
because everyone was sent
as a guide from beyond.

Jalaluddin Rumi, translation by Coleman Barks

(The essential Rumi)

Read more motivational tips to ban emotional eating here.


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