I know it seems impossible sometimes, but we all need time to myself. not only to maintain good mental health, but also to help us achieve our goals.
I'm a huge fan of Julia Cameron, author of The Artist & # 39; s Way. According to Julia, we draw creativity and inspiration from our inner well (and this can take many forms – you don't have to be a writer or an artist as we are all creative in different ways).
Think about the times when you tried to lose weight and got off to a really good start at the beginning of the week. You exercise, you buy all healthy foods and you ban the garbage. But then, at the end of the week – under the strain of all the demands on your plate – do you get off track? I would argue that if you carved a few small "pockets" of time, this wouldn't happen. This will recharge your energies and allow you to prioritize the important goals again.
The exhaustion of the self
Most of us have seen what it is like when we do not take care of the maintenance of our well. we get exhausted and stagnate. With work requirements, family, homework, and homework, there sometimes seems to be little time to learn the basics, regardless of whether I have extra time to myself. If we don't, we can be constantly exhausted. Not only that, but also our dreams, our goals are pushed into the background. Julia encourages us to learn to feed ourselves. That means consciously replenishing our resources while we and others access them.
Another perspective is whether we strive to be always busy? Do we fill our journals because we fear the guilt and lack of purpose that we associate only with "being"? "The Busyness Trap," a term coined by Professor Thomas J. DeLong of Harvard Business School (read his post here), is the modern habit that busyness is so ingrained in our culture that we almost don't know what to do when we're not around I'm not busy. This takes place in corporate culture but is also common in the life of the mother or father staying at home.
Have you ever heard friends (or yourself) say, "I know the kids are at school in the morning, but I still don't have enough time for everything"?
Or those who cut their working hours to spend more time at home say, "I don't know how I fit into my job before!"
Places where you can start making room for "Me Time"
1) Spend more time at home: We rush here and there all the time, but how often do you spend at home? Maybe even avoiding home because you associate it with chores? Can you learn to leave a little mess and just be? I found this out the hard way recently when I was locked up at home for about six weeks due to an injury (not driving or walking). My friends and family thought I was going to have a blast, but I had to indulge in the process of just being home, and to my surprise, I found that I loved being home more than I thought. It was a revelation.
2) Check out your days: Take a close look at your days and analyze if there are things that are holding you back from achieving your goal (e.g. finally getting fitter or losing the extra weight). When I did that, I was shocked to see that I was wasting time doing things I should be doing (like cleaning up the house all the time!), So I scaled down.
My house is less tidy, but I hardly notice it now. Try to drop something that isn't strictly necessary (like meeting a coworker or friend for coffee) and instead replace it with something that will get you closer to your goal (like an hour) spend in the kitchen, cook and listen to music!).
3) Build in a bag with "nothing": I've written before about the importance of doing nothing in an environment and culture that makes us believe that the busier we are, the more important we are. For some, this can even lead to a phobia of having too much time to yourself.
I know I've had moments of thinking, "What do I actually enjoy doing?" When I've been given unexpected time. However, during my recovery process, I realized that I don't need to fill time with things. Instead, I can just enjoy the moments of relaxation and daydreaming. Your time can be spread out over the week (10 minutes per day) or you can aim for a full morning per week.
4) Pull out the mains plug and set the limit values: Regardless of the requirements, you need to learn to limit your time. It doesn't matter if you are an employee or a parent who stays at home. Both need to relax and be "off duty".
Ask others to help and complete certain tasks that you normally do (if you don't ask, they probably won't offer them). Stop using social media for a day, surfing Google, and checking your phone for email or WhatsApp messages. It's the one day you stop being a slave to your phone. If you do, you will be shocked how much easier it is to have some time for me, even if it just means lying on your bed daydreaming or actually reading a book!
Enjoy your "me-time" this week … because it's valuable, and so are you!
"Sometimes the most important thing in a whole day is the rest that we take between deep breaths." – Etty Hillesum