Slip And Be taught: How To Deal With Perfectionism And Guilt

Slip And Learn How To Deal With Perfectionism And Guilt

This podcast title Slip And Learn: How to deal with perfectionism and guilt is probably one of the most important podcasts we recorded.

The first and probably most important thing to watch out for – everyone has them, that is, slip-ups. Let's get that out of the way – you are not alone.

We learn from our mistakes, and it is in the human condition that we do not always get everything right, be it at the beginning, in the middle, or just before the end of a program (weight loss, quitting smoking, etc.).

Dealing with these slip-ups is critical to our long-term success (and happiness).

If Motivated, we get them with new clients from day one, so sign a commitment form and let them know there will be slips on the trip – you are only human. We'll show them how to think differently about slips, as most clients have tried any number of traditional weight loss programs and failed because they stopped after a slip or series of slips.

If we think differently about slip-ups or failures, our customers can slip, learn, and move on without missing a step. No guilt from feelings of failure.

As Maebh points out, when there is a relapse it is not if, but when, and it will either go one of two ways:

  1. If you've listened to your weight loss advisor and used your motivational tools, you'll be quite responsive to the slip up. Most importantly, they recognize and see it as part of the process and just continue their journey and get back on track. Learning to deal with perfectionism and guilt is a central aspect of the program.
  2. The other option is those who beat themselves up. They are perfectionists too, but unfortunately did not use the tools and work on the problems. Critical to this point is Maebh's observation that perfectionism is a trait that can be worked on; People change and you can work on this side of yourself.

The perfectionist assumes that if they don't always do it perfectly, they shouldn't do it at all.

The reality is that we all fall behind or slip.

The reality is, as weight loss consultants, we know that clients who follow the program 70/80% of the time will be successful.

You will deviate and you will fall behind and it is important that you act with yourself with compassion when this happens.

How do you know if you are a perfectionist or if you suffer from guilt?

For Maebh, her perfectionism and feelings of guilt were identified and confirmed when she completed the mental weight questionnaire.

Maebh adopted the mantra that it is okay to make mistakes, but as she points out, it took a while for it to run down from head to heart.

Now Maebh can park a bug (be a parent, eat, whatever) and get on with it.

This podcast lasts a little over 18 minutes and is an invaluable resource for learning about slips and relapses, but most importantly, how to deal with perfectionism and feelings of guilt.


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