Why Cannot Each Friday Be A Good Friday?

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Why Can't Every Friday Be A Good Friday?

As we all know, there are ups and downs and good and bad days. As good as we try, not every day can be a good day. This is how we respond to these challenges that prepare us for successful weight loss and equally important, successful long-term weight maintenance.

Why can't every Friday be Good Friday?

This is my answer, and it is at the core of how we work with clients to make these transformative changes.

It's about understanding behavior or psychological causes.

In psychology, the school of cognitive therapy explains human behavior in four steps: A, B, C, and D. This is used to explain all behavior, both healthy and unhealthy. These steps always take place one after the other.

Each step automatically triggers the next: A triggers B, B triggers C, which in turn triggers D. However, A cannot trigger C or D. All steps are always there, even if they are carried out unconsciously or very quickly.

Step A: A fact, event or situation happens.

Something happens to me.

Step B: My thoughts on this event.

What I'm saying in my head

Step C: The emotions that I felt.

What I automatically feel.

Step D: My automatic behavior.

What I do (often automatically).

Notice the key words: my thought, my emotions and my behavior.

  1. This means that I am solely responsible for my behavior.
  2. This means that everything I do (my behavior) comes from my emotions (C triggers D).
  3. This means that my emotions come from the way I think (B triggers C).
  4. In the end, this means that it is not what I experience (the event) that triggers my emotions, but my thought (step B).

Therefore, I would recommend not giving others power over our emotions. I would also say that one person cannot be responsible for the emotions of others.

Positive ABCD

The following explains the process that explains good behaviors that lead to success.

Step A: A fact, event or situation happens.

Something happened to me. I am overweight and feel bad about it.

In a process that leads to success, Step A will lead to a goal that we have set for ourselves. For example, to be successful at work, to be physically active, to quit smoking, or to lose weight.

Step B: My thoughts on this event.

What I'm saying in my head I say that I want to feel better, that it is really worth it.

Important: your thoughts are your own. You can acquire new ones, keep those that work for you, or lose those who are harmful to you.

Step C: The emotions that I felt.

What I automatically feel. I am highly motivated

Motivation is indeed a positive emotion, like love, serenity, or joy.

The stronger the perceived advantages in step B and the more I believe in success, the greater my motivation.

The word "automatically" means unconscious. I therefore have no direct control over the emotions.

To increase the intensity of my motivation, I need to return to Step B – my thought – and become more aware of the benefits of achieving my goal.

I also need to eliminate the negative emotions associated with my perception of the costs involved in order to achieve my goal.

Step D: My automatic behavior.

What I do (often automatically). I am signing up for a good weight loss program.

The intensity of the behavior always follows the intensity of the emotion. Strong motivation automatically leads to strong behavior. Low motivation automatically means low behavior and susceptibility to negative emotions.

Important: In order to achieve long-term success and to have good motivation in the long term, you have to repeat step B every day if possible (advantages that are associated with your success)

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